Dear Auntie Agni
I am a 19-year-old girl. A cousin of mine who is a year younger to me keeps copying me. She does everything I do. When we go to a restaurant, she orders the same meal as me. Whatever I buy she has to buy. At my sister’s wedding she wore the same clothes as me and got the same hairstyle. I would not be friends with her if she wasn’t my cousin, but my mom keeps telling me that I have to involve her in everything I do. And she ends up copying me every single time. I feel like screaming at her, but my parents stop me. She is such a bug. It bothers me that some people are so dim-witted and can’t decide for themselves.
Perturbed
Dear Flatter yourself,
There are two ways of looking at every problem. You can be all negative and resentful and cramp your own style and your facial expression. Or you can use the fact that you are being copied to flatter yourself about your wonderful sense of style. Hey, it happens to celebrities all the time.
And anyway, even while wearing the same thing, you know that you still look different from your look alike. So Auntie suggests that you chill, stop worrying about why she is sooo insecure and start flattering yourself. Ciao.
Dear Auntie,
I am a 29-year-old boy who loves a girl from a different sect. We are both from Islamabad and are now living and working together in an office in Karachi. We have known each other for three years now. We have many other things in common and enjoy hanging out with each other. We go for lunches and parties together and I look forward to seeing her everyday. I talk to her on the phone every night. I have not known anyone else like her and don’t think I will ever meet anyone like her. She is pretty, funny and exciting. My mother is against the marriage because the girl is not from our community. She has been showing me girls from my own community but I am not interested. How do I convince my mother?
Torn
Dear Beta,
The biggest hurdle to this shaadi is yourself. You sound like you are in love. You have to decide whether it is happening or not and more importantly whether you are serious about this girl or not. Consider how you strongly you feel about religion. Consider how religious she is. Also think about your children and how strongly you would feel if your children decide to follow their mother’s sect. Once you have deliberated all this and still decide that she is worth fighting for, wipe away all doubts and go have a serious talk with your mom. Be polite, but firm when you tell her that you will not consider any other girl. Refuse to get pulled into debate. Hopefully you will get married. And once you do please don’t forget to stand by wifey, because you are not marrying her to torture her.
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I am a 19-year-old girl. A cousin of mine who is a year younger to me keeps copying me. She does everything I do. When we go to a restaurant, she orders the same meal as me. Whatever I buy she has to buy. At my sister’s wedding she wore the same clothes as me and got the same hairstyle. I would not be friends with her if she wasn’t my cousin, but my mom keeps telling me that I have to involve her in everything I do. And she ends up copying me every single time. I feel like screaming at her, but my parents stop me. She is such a bug. It bothers me that some people are so dim-witted and can’t decide for themselves.
Perturbed
Dear Flatter yourself,
There are two ways of looking at every problem. You can be all negative and resentful and cramp your own style and your facial expression. Or you can use the fact that you are being copied to flatter yourself about your wonderful sense of style. Hey, it happens to celebrities all the time.
And anyway, even while wearing the same thing, you know that you still look different from your look alike. So Auntie suggests that you chill, stop worrying about why she is sooo insecure and start flattering yourself. Ciao.
Dear Auntie,
I am a 29-year-old boy who loves a girl from a different sect. We are both from Islamabad and are now living and working together in an office in Karachi. We have known each other for three years now. We have many other things in common and enjoy hanging out with each other. We go for lunches and parties together and I look forward to seeing her everyday. I talk to her on the phone every night. I have not known anyone else like her and don’t think I will ever meet anyone like her. She is pretty, funny and exciting. My mother is against the marriage because the girl is not from our community. She has been showing me girls from my own community but I am not interested. How do I convince my mother?
Torn
Dear Beta,
The biggest hurdle to this shaadi is yourself. You sound like you are in love. You have to decide whether it is happening or not and more importantly whether you are serious about this girl or not. Consider how you strongly you feel about religion. Consider how religious she is. Also think about your children and how strongly you would feel if your children decide to follow their mother’s sect. Once you have deliberated all this and still decide that she is worth fighting for, wipe away all doubts and go have a serious talk with your mom. Be polite, but firm when you tell her that you will not consider any other girl. Refuse to get pulled into debate. Hopefully you will get married. And once you do please don’t forget to stand by wifey, because you are not marrying her to torture her.
Visit www.auntieagni.com
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